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5 best affordable things to do on Valentine’s Day

I know I am not the only one who dreads Valentine’s Day and that is for many reasons which one of them is that it falls in the middle of the months and usually involves spending loads sh*t of money. Lucky for you, you don’t have to go around searching for things to do and asking you girlfriends or trying to find out what your girlfriend wants as a token of appreciation.

Lucky for me (lol) I get to spend V’Day alone, not by choice though but because I am in a long distance relationship plus I am moving house so we know we can’t be spending a lot when we have a mission at hand. This however does not mean I cannot share a few fun things you can do alone or with loved ones on this very “special” day. Here are the best top 5 things I recommend you do on 14 February:

  1. Visit any Botanical Gardens in your area for a picnic: I am not a fan of journeying to the park but by the time I sit down, I am already enthusiastic about the idea of just sitting and being unbothered about everything because it is always just so quiet. A picnic with someone you cherish should also feel the same. I remember
  2. Hiking: Anything for a day in the “wild” is what I would sign up for any day. Not only you get to hike with someone or people you love (maybe alone), when you get to the top, there is a feeling of fulfillment and it comes with any type of hike.
  3. Movie and beer at home with a projector: What do you need the tv for if you can just use a projector for some big screen action right in the comfort of your own house. All you need is a projector, a laptop and a clear wall and you have yourself a movie marathon.
  4. Host a game night: You are never too old to have a scavenger hunt or just a good old charades or 30 seconds. This is great because you will be having fun and at the same time learn about each other’s qualities. I know my boyfriend is competitive and a sore loser, myself on the other hand can win and lose without pressure.
  5. Cook together: A meal for two is the cheapest way to reminisce about how you met and the funny stories that were so bad then but all jokes now. Some couples even go for a cooking competition where they time themselves and they create a romantic meal from a cooking show and rate each other with a side of good wine.

There is clearly no excuse to not love Valentine’s Day. There is also no reason to hate it. I feel like people who hate Valentine’s Day are just sour that they are not as creative about self as they think they are. The fact that you bought yourself wine and sat alone does not mean you hate it, it just means you love your own company so when you go out there to the world, please try appreciating that you had the chance to celebrate it, don’t make others feel bad for having done something special for their loved ones. If you feel like you need to do something for yourself, how about writing a love letter to yourself or a spa day- there are so many deals online that will cost you so much less compared to a full on Mangwanani spa day.

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Tinder Do’s and Don’ts

Hope for love, pray for love, wish for love, dream for love…but don’t put your life on hold waiting for love. ― Mandy Hale

Every time I tell people that I met Vincent online, I always get questions like “How the hell did you find him?”. Not all men online as idiots and want to stick their junk everywhere with the right swipe. When I met my boyfriend, I was not even thinking I would meet someone I could be serious with even though my profile was specific about what I wanted. All I got were men trying to get at me because they are in SA for a short time and want to have a good time.

I did go on a few dates, met amazing people whom were amazing friends until they moved countries and communication dies. I met annoying people and some whom we just did not connect but that is just exactly what you sign up for. Here are my Do’s and Don’ts of Tinder for people who want to at least try find the “right” person.

Do’s

  • Always be specific about what you are looking for. There will be people who will text you even though they can’t give you what you are looking for. Just be calm.
  • Never compromise or waste your time. Greet and ask what the person is looking for, straight up.
  • Show your personality through your pictures.
  • A line from a movie always helps with knowing you without asking what kind of a person you are.
  • Start the conversation if you want, honestly no one has time to play chicken with the other.
  • Be your authentic self. At least they’ll know who they are getting themselves into.
  • I added that books make the best gift or wine and that is a good conversation starter.
  • Always suggest a public place, where you know you’ll be seen by others as a meeting point in case you disappear.
  • Friendships first are better than f*cking then dating.

Don’ts

  • Don’t expect a lot of positive things or men to come out of tinder.
  • Especially for black women, there are a lot of white men out there who want to have a girl waiting for them in every country so stay away from the “In S.A for a couple of months”.
  • Some of these men just want to be experimental about black women so also, be very careful.
  • Again, don’t compromise on what you are looking for. There will be people texting you to hook-up and you think they are hot but they are just as annoying as all the ones you want to avoid.
  • Don’t be too available. Come on, we all have lives but don’t be too scarce either.
  • Don’t be scared to ask for a number. Politely so.
  • Your exes are your exes, this is a new friendship/what can be a relationship so put your past aside and get to know people.
  • Don’t forget that Tinder is not only or dating, you can make good friends.
  • Don’t lie to people about who you are and where you at. You’ll be found out (this happened some time last year before I met my boyfriend). It was like a movie and a funny story actually.

So ladies and gents, I hope this helps and happy hunting I guess. Tinder is not for everyone. It might work for you but not for your friend or the next person. Always be responsible as well.

Do you have any Tinder stories you would like to share? Comment on this post, I would like to hear it all.